YOUR 3-TOOL PROTOCOL
to start to shift your romantic relationship TODAY…
Protocols combine energetic and physical tools to help you reprogram and clear your current obstacle. These intuited steps create a clear path to less resistance, more clarity, and the relationship results you actually want.
Physical Tool #1: Create A Commitment Plan For YOURSELF
In order for a romantic partner to fully commit to us (go all in, fully see us, want to appreciate us, spend time with us, plan things, understand us) - we need to fully commit to ourselves first. Your physical action here is to create a commitment plan to yourself!
In order to do that…
1) First recognize where you tend to break promises/ commitments to yourself. This might be not going to a workout you said you’d do. It could be trying something new for a couple of weeks (meal plan, hobby, learning a skill)… and quitting because it’s inconvenient or hard. It might look like canceling an appointment you were excited about - hair cut, manicure, etc. - because you felt like you needed to work late. It can also look like knowing you need to schedule a doctor’s visit, and not scheduling it. Pinpoint areas you’re not committing to yourself FIRST.
2) Then, from there, create a plan and solutions to start to commit and go all in on yourself. By doing this, we write the script that we’re someone to be committed to. We’re someone to follow through with promises on. We have to do it for ourselves first.
Ideas to include in your commitment plan:
✓ How often are you getting in movement/ week - as a non-negotiable?
✓ What’s your process for scheduling important appointments that aren’t fun, but need to be done - to ensure they get done for yourself? Doctors, oil changes, bank appointments, repairs, etc.
✓ What’s your goal around food and fueling your body? What plan can you create to hold yourself accountable to that?
✓ What are your financial goals and what strategies can you create in your day to day life to commit to those goals?
✓ What are you wanting to learn? How will you commit to spending time learning that thing?
✓ What services do you want to treat yourself to every month (pedicure, massage, hair) and how can make sure they’re always scheduled on your calendar so that they happen?
Be as detailed as you can here! These are questions to get the wheels turning.
Energetic Tool #1: Learn + Look at the “Reflection”
Reflections are mirrors for us to see and recognize blocks we can shift. It's however we are being toward ourselves that gets reflected back to us in people, circumstances, and situations!
Whenever you get emotionally triggered about your romantic relationship, it's a REFLECTION. You know you're experiencing a reflection when you get triggered and feel upset, angry, annoyed, etc. Understanding these reflections so you have the ability to learn from them is the tool! Example below.
*This is a cliffnotes overview of what reflections are! This video is pulled directly from our $28 Foundational Program
An example of a reflection in romantic relationships could be when you tell your partner something that you’re excited about and instead of immediately being as excited as you are, they start asking questions about that thing. Now looking inward to find the reflection, think about how you feel like they’re being in that moment. Maybe you feel like they’re criticizing you, then think about where you are criticizing yourself. It could be that you’re actually criticizing yourself in career with the work you put out and where you did things “wrong” instead of praising yourself for what you’re doing well.
Energetic Tool #2: Reprogram Limiting Beliefs Around Your Romantic Relationship With This “Ingredient”
*This is a cliffnotes overview of what ingredients are! This video is pulled directly from our $28 Foundational Program
Ingredients are the tools to help you reprogram beliefs and create actual shifts. They are statements that you then prove to be true to yourself.
We’re giving you a specific ingredient to start with! Write this in the Notes app on your phone, and every morning, clock tiny tiny micromoments that happened from the previous day proving this statement true:
“Feeling like my partner is so lucky to have me” or “Feeling like my future partner is so lucky to have me ”
Examples of micromoments could be:
I create safe spaces for people I love - my partner trusted me yesterday to tell me the whole backstory about his childhood trauma.
I’m doing the work to control my emotions and invested in a workshop to lead myself and show up stronger in my relationships.
I fill myself up first so I have 100% capacity to pour into others - I went to the spa day I booked 3 weeks ago before dropping off my partner’s lunch to him at work that he forgot at home yesterday.
